Hari ini Sebelum pulang kantor temanku bertanya “Stan loe pernah marah ngga sih? Kog kelihatannya digodain teman-teman ngga pernah tersinggung atau ngg suka tetapi selalu ditanggapi dengan lelucon juga. Saya menimpali saja “ada 2 pilihan dalam situasi ini, kamu melihat itu sebagai suatu ejekan atau melihat sebagai perhatian dari temankita” Temanku langsung tertawa terbahak-bahak mendengarnya. Lalu menimpali lagi “kamu jangan terlalu positif dong melihat sesuatu”. Saya langsung terhenyak dan mengeyitkan dahi melihat reaksi temanku ini. Dalam hati aku mebatin, temanku pasti sedang mengalami sesuatu yang membuatnya berkomentar begini.
Saya berusaha melihat sesuatu dari sisi yang positif karena buat aku pribadi kejengkelan atau marah hanya dengan suatu hal yang sepele, misalnya diejek asal-usul kita dari daerah terpencil bukanlah sesuatu yang besar. Saya berusaha membuat situasi ini menjadi lelucon dan kalau ada rekan yang seperti ini saya selalu melihatnya sebagai perhatian ke kita walaupun dengan cara yang lain. Setiap orang memiliki karakteristik pribadi yang berbeda dalam mengungkapkan perhatiannya ke orang lain.
So, mengapa menjadi aneh buat yang lain kalau melihat dari sisi yang positif yah, Erbe Sentanu di Quantum Iklas menekankan pentingnya berpikir positif namun lebih dalam dari itu adalah positife feeling. Saya mau sharing cerita tentang Jerry, beberapa waktu lalu saya menerima email ini dan seminggu lalu saat sharing di Santika, Ibu Engeline dari Carrefour Indonesia menceritakan kembali kisah Jerry ini. Semoga memberi inspirasi yah karena sayapun mendapat insight dari cerita ini. Saya tidak menerjemahkannya sehingga bisa lebih terasa feel-nya.
Jerry is the manager of a restaurant. He is always in a good mood. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would always reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!" Many of the waiters at his restaurant quit their jobs when he changed jobs, so they could follow him around from restaurant to restaurant ….WHY ????
Because,Jerry was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day,
Jerry was always there, telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation. Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him. "I don't get it! No one can be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, I have two choices today. I can choose to be in a good mood or I can choose to be in a bad mood. I always choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be victim or I can choose to learn from it. I always choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I always choose the positive side of life." "But it's not always that easy,“ I protested. "Yes it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk every situation is a choice.
how you react to situations.
how people will affect your mood.
to be in a good mood or bad mood.
It's your choice how you live your life."
Several years later,
I heard that Jerry accidentally did something you are never supposed to do in the restaurant business.
He left the back door of his restaurant open….
And then ???
In the morning, he was robbed by three armed men.
They want? #123*+!@$%&*~
While Jerry trying to open the safe box,
his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination.
The robbers panicked and shot him.
Luckily, Jerry was found quickly and rushed to the hospital….
After 18 hours of surgery….
and weeks of intensive care,
Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.…
I saw Jerry about six months after the accident.
When I asked him how he was,…
he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Want to see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied.
"Then, after they shot me, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or could choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared“ I asked?
Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine.”
But when they wheeled me into the Emergency Room and I saw the expression on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared.
In their eyes, I read 'He's a dead man.'
I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry.
"She asked if I was allergic to anything.”
‘Yes,’ I replied.
The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply.
I took a deep breath….
and yelled, 'Bullets!'
Over their laughter, I told them,
'I am choosing to live. Please operate on me as if I am alive, not dead'.
Jerry lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.
I learned from him that…..
Every day we have the choice to either enjoy our life or to hate it.
The only thing that is truly yours - that no one can control or take from you-
is your attitude,
so if you can take care of that, everything else in life becomes much easier.
Now you have two choices to make:
1. You can despite this story, or...
2. You can share it to someone you care about….
I hope you will choose #2.
So teman, saya pertama kali membaca cerita ini heran banget kog ada yah orang seperti Jerry. Saya kemudian mendapatkan penjelasan lebih dalam mengenai berpikir positif dalam Buku The Secret “Law of Attraction”. Jadi jangan ragu mari tetapkan dan pilih positif thinking yang kita pilih atau positive feeling dalam melihat dan menanggapi sesuatu.